Gretchen L. Kelly, Author

Finding Perspective In A Life Under Water

“Darkness has a hunger that’s insatiable and lightness has a call that’s hard to hear.” -Indigo Girls, Closer to Fine  Do you know why I hate drama? Aside from the fact that negativity breeds like a voracious beast, it’s just so damn wasteful. So much time and energy can be wasted on drama. And almost […]

Boys Will Be Boys… The Danger of Low Expectations

“Boy, you’re gonna carry that weight. Carry that weight a long time…” -The Beatles, Carry That Weight Boys are getting a bad rap. They are being reduced to the lowest common denominator. They are suffering the permissibility of low expectations. They have no self control. They have violent urges. They have uncontainable sexual tendencies. Boys […]

“The Talk” That Proves Racism Is Alive

  “The police in New York City They chased a boy right through the park And in a case of mistaken identity The put a bullet through his heart Heart breakers with your forty four, I wanna tear your world apart” -The Rolling Stones, Heartbreaker Do you worry about what others think of you? I […]

I’ve Had Enough of “Them”

“Will we ever understand? Or is the fate of man at hand? Will we live or shall we die? How will we ever know if we never try?” -Lenny Kravitz, What the Fuck Are We Saying Them. It can mean different things. It can be people who look different. It can be people of different nations. […]

This Discrimination Is Still OK

“Pardon me while I burst into flames, I’ve had enough of the world and people’s mindless games. Pardon me while I burst and rise above the flame. Pardon me, pardon me. I’ll never be the same.” -Incubus, Pardon Me We live in a world where discrimination still happens but it often happens in the shadows. […]

Enough Of This Shit

  “Where you born to resist, or be abused? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you?” -Foo Fighters, Best of You Saturday was a fun day. We spent the evening at friend’s house. The kids laughing and playing in the pool while we enjoyed good food, great conversation and […]

Stop Telling Your Kids They’re Special

“You can’t always get what you want, But if you try sometimes you just might find, You get what you need.” -The Rolling Stones, You Can’t Always Get What You Want We are ruining them. Our kids. Every day that we lavish praise on them and reward them for mediocrity we’re ruining them. We’re teaching […]

America, This Is Your Rape Culture

“Me and a gun and a man On my back But I haven’t seen Barbados So I must get out of this Yes I wore a slinky red thing Does that mean I should spread For you, your friends your father, Mr. Ed” -Tori Amos, Me and A Gun My daughter had this funny thing […]

Feminist Friday…. Why?

Feminism… sigh….  Why has such an important word that signifies so many good and important things become so vilified? You would think that at this point in our country, in our culture, in society as a whole- that this discussion wouldn’t be necessary. But alas, it   is. It seems like you can’t read the […]

Feminism and the World According To Lily Allen

This morning I logged on to FaceBook to do some mindless meandering before reading some real stuff. I was numbly perusing postings about the weather (rain, again?) and someone’s cute kid doing something amazingly cute, when I saw an article from NME magazine that made me almost spit my coffee all over my computer. It […]