The Lie in Returning to Normal: Privilege as Policy Hurts Everyone (even the privileged)

Remember when we were doing “we’re in this together” sidewalk chalk and cheering for healthcare workers every evening? I think I had this hope that we really were “in this together.” I had this desperate optimism that this would be a turning point, that finally people would understand a little of what disabled and immune […]

Creativity In the Time of COVID (from the blog formerly known as Drifting Through)

I started blogging in 2014, back when it was cool to come up with cute or pithy names for your blog. “Mommy blogs” dotted the landscape, which was growing increasingly more crowded by the day. Women and caregivers built the platforms that many of us later jumped on to hone our craft and build our […]

This Is Not A Political Post

My first political debate took place in the back of the school bus in First Grade. My friend and I had started arguing about the upcoming election. We were going at it pretty hard over Reagan v Carter. We were spitting out words and throwing around phrases we had heard but didn’t really understand. But […]

The Day I Prayed For My Brother To Have Cancer

I don’t know how long I sat there. My hands were clasped in sweaty-palmed desperation. My eyes were shut and my jaw clenched. The office bustled around me and phones rang. I ignored the morning commotion of the sales office and concentrated. I was praying. Bargaining, really. I was cutting deals left and right with […]

I Had No Idea What I Was Getting Into When I Got Married

I thought I wasn’t the marrying type. The relationship type? Yes. But marriage is so… permanent. Long. Endless. Boring.        I used to lay on the floor for hours, headphones on, music turned up. I would daydream and imagine my future. I pictured a life of work combined with creativity. With love that […]

The Voice That Made All The Difference. Thank You, Mom.

  None of us get through life unscathed. We all have things that caused pain or fear or rejection or shame. Sometimes I look back and I marvel at where I am. I feel incredibly lucky that the hurtful and the shameful and the painful didn’t define me. They are there, but they didn’t win. […]

A Love Letter To All Of You

Lately my heart has been hurting for some people I love. I see so much pain that runs so deep. And over at SisterWives I see brave writers baring their souls and bleeding on the page. And in doing so they find healing and comfort and sometimes even a little closure. So I decided to […]

Now’s the Time. Do Something. #1000Speak

“I look at you all, see the love there that’s sleeping While my guitar gently weeps” I couldn’t take my eyes off of him. I wanted to do something. I felt helpless as I sat in the backseat. My legs couldn’t yet reach the floor board, my pockets were empty of all but a scuffed […]

How Marriage Has Taught Me To Pick A Fight

I met him in our college Spanish class. After admiring him from afar for the better part of a year, we fell into a heated relationship. I was crazy about him.  Our relationship was tumultuous. Until it wasn’t. Eventually the passion was gone. We were living together, making a home and making plans. Three years […]

Lessons From the Worst Day Of My Life

It was my wedding day. I found myself standing outside the doors to the chapel. My heart was racing. Pressure began building inside and I felt my eyes fill up with tears. I can’t do this. Before I could turn and run, the doors were flung open. I was caught off guard as 80 expectant […]